That Ruin their Kid's Chance of Making Money After Highschool!
by Amanda van der Gulik
Why did you choose to homeschool your child? So they could get a good start on life right? So they would be well prepared to take on the challenges that adult life will give them right?
Did you know that you are one of a very small group that does some pretty amazing things to make a real positive difference in the life of your child?
You are and you do! That is a fact.
But even the best homescool parents, even the very smartest of the bunch still often say these 3 simple statements that can ruin your child's chances of getting making money after highschool! (yes, even after a homeschooled highschool education!)
But don't worry, I'll explain each of these 3 statements for you so you won't fall prey to them...so your child will have the best chance of scoring the best jobs the world has to offer!
So what are these 3 statements that even the smartest homeschooling parents make?
1. "I can't afford that!"
2. "I'm not made of money!" ...and...
3. "Money doesn't grow on trees!"
Without even realizing the negative impact these three statements will have on their children's future!
Let's take the first one first. Have you ever heard yourself saying, "I can't afford that!" or "We can't afford that!" to your child when they wanted to buy something and you didn't have the money to pay for it or you just wanted to bring across the message to your child that you're not about to buy every whim and whimsy they come across.
Fair enough for sure! But think about it. What are you really bringing across to them? What is the underlying implication that their subconscious mind is soaking up like a sponge.
That they can't afford it either. That they are not good enough. That there is no way that they are good enough to be able to afford what they want in life. Their subconscious is being trained to believe that things are hard to come by, that we live in a limited world where abundance is scarce.
But what if we really can't afford to buy it? We're not lying!
You're absolutely right! You're not lying. But what if we put a spin on it, what if we were to look at the same answer from a different perspective? What if we were to answer with a questions rather than a firm negative answer? What would happen then?
Let's imagine that your child wants to buy new roller blades. You do not have the money to buy it. You only just barely have enough to buy the food you need to put on their plates, so there is no way you are even able to give them money for the roller blades.
What if instead of saying, "I can't afford that!", you said, "Those look nice. They are not in my budget right now, but can you think of a way to buy those?"
By asking your child, "How can you afford that?" you are actually putting their brains in positive motion. Whenever you ask your mind a question it will always crank and spin and turn until it comes up with an answer. Give it a try. Ask yourself a question and try not to answer it! It's nearly impossible!
So use that to your advantage, better yet, use it to your child or teen's advantage! Get their wheels turning. Encourage them to find a solution to their problem. How can they afford to get those roller blades? You might be surprised at the creative ways they come up with! :)
So now what about the phrase, "I'm not made of money!" Did you ever hear your parents say this to you? Have you heard yourself ever saying it to your own teen?
As homeschooling parents, we have even more control over what messages go into our child's subconscious minds. We take the time to ensure that they are learning all the material and lessons that we deem important for ensuring they succeed in life, but often times we don't do our best when it comes to setting a positive wealth mentality in our kids.
And its not your fault either! You are not to blame.
We as a society have been conditioned to think with scarcity. This saying is so prominent in our world that I would bet that at least 99% of every one who reads this article has heard these very words in their own homes! And a good portion have heard themselves reiterating it to our own children. I know I have!
But what are we actually telling our child when we say this to them?
We know what we mean to say, right? We're simply trying to convey the message that they can't just get everything they want all the time. That life has limits, that things take money and time to buy.
But are we correct?
Does life have to be so hard?
Well, if we keep up this attitude of scarcity then the answer will always be a resounding, "Yes!" We have conditioned ourselves to actually believe that life is hard, that we are not made of money.
So then I ask you...what is money made of, if not you?
Money is mearly paper. Does paper have value? If you burn it, it can bring you warmth or even cook your food. If you compost it, it can feed your garden. But other than that, does the paper really have any value all by itself?
No.
You bring it value. You make it have meaning. Because of you and your creativity and talents, you have made money have value. Money is made of you, and because you can create money with your talents, with your creativity, you are actually made of money too!
Think about it. It's your work that gets exchanged for money. It's your ideas that turn into money, like books, movies, prepared foods, toys, furntiture, services. The list goes on and on.
So in fact, you are made of money. We all are made of money. Money does not exist without us. It has no meaning without us. By telling our kids that you are not made of money, they actually hear in their minds that they are not made of money. That then translates to their own inability to create money, to create their own wealth.
I know it may sound rather harsh, but look around. Who are the people you know who are doing really well financially? Who are the people you know who not only have lots of money but who never stress about money or getting it. They are the ones who assume that even if there is no money at the present moment, using their own creativity they know that they can always find a way to make their own money.
How great will it feel to know that because of you, because of your own choices to use positive words that empower over those that tend to hinder, your child can have any job they go after. They can even create their own income from their own ideas. They won't have those limitations that we have put on ourselves. They will truly believe that anything is posible! Imagine what kind of a life advantage that will give your child or teen!
And how about the last one, "Money doesn't grow on trees!" Why not? Why doesn't it?
Let's think about this. Again, by telling our children and teens that money is hard to come by, we are setting up their psyche's to simply accept the idea that life is difficult and that it's hard to make a living. And it absolutely can be, I'm not saying it isn't. But whether its hard or not has a lot to do with your attitude and how we choose to see our lives.
Do you want your teens to accept that all things in life are difficult to come by and thereby set up the idea that they will always need to struggle in life, or would you rather your child or teen sees the world through the eyes of opportunity, willing to take calculated risks with the greater posibility of achieving success?
Money absolutely can grow on trees! Just plant a fruit or nut tree and see what harvests will come your way. And how about a soft or hard wood tree that can be cultivated later to build you a new home? Let's encourage our teens to plant their own trees, to depend on themselves, not just to hope to find someone else's tree but to actually make the effort to plant their own and then have the enjoyment of reaping what they sow!
From now on, let's choose to say these three statements in a more positive way:
1. "How can you afford that?" - get them thinking of a solution rather than focusing on a problem or resistance.
2. "I create my own wealth" - make it a fact and then let your brain guide you to the opportunities that will make it a reality.
3. "Money does grow on trees, so start planting them now!" - time to teach our kids to plan their own orchards!
I know it seems like I've made it all sound rather easy. It's actually a lot easier than you might initially believe. What you really need to make these things happen to ensure that your child leave your protective homeschooling nest with a positive step forward in life is to learn how to make easy habits out of these new ideas.
Don't expect to be able to make change all at once. Find a mentor who can guide you. Find books or courses that can help you to teach your child how to be rich, how to take care of themselves, and posibly you in the future too! Trust your instincts.
Here’s to both your success and your child’s! Would LOVE to hear your own success stories!
Cheers…Amanda van der Gulik…Excited Life Enthusiast! ;o)
Best-selling author, Amanda van der Gulik, has been homeschooling her own two children for over 11 years. She loves to share her own experiences to help other families and is the founder of www.TeachingChildrenAboutMoney.com. Visit Amanda’s site today to grab your FREE copy of one of her amazing money tools for kids and teens, like her eBook, “Goal Setting for Families” workbook or her “50 Money Making Ideas for Kids and Teens” eBook to help your child find some fun ways to make their own dreams come true!
by Amanda van der Gulik
Why did you choose to homeschool your child? So they could get a good start on life right? So they would be well prepared to take on the challenges that adult life will give them right?
Did you know that you are one of a very small group that does some pretty amazing things to make a real positive difference in the life of your child?
You are and you do! That is a fact.
But even the best homescool parents, even the very smartest of the bunch still often say these 3 simple statements that can ruin your child's chances of getting making money after highschool! (yes, even after a homeschooled highschool education!)
But don't worry, I'll explain each of these 3 statements for you so you won't fall prey to them...so your child will have the best chance of scoring the best jobs the world has to offer!
So what are these 3 statements that even the smartest homeschooling parents make?
1. "I can't afford that!"
2. "I'm not made of money!" ...and...
3. "Money doesn't grow on trees!"
Without even realizing the negative impact these three statements will have on their children's future!
Let's take the first one first. Have you ever heard yourself saying, "I can't afford that!" or "We can't afford that!" to your child when they wanted to buy something and you didn't have the money to pay for it or you just wanted to bring across the message to your child that you're not about to buy every whim and whimsy they come across.
Fair enough for sure! But think about it. What are you really bringing across to them? What is the underlying implication that their subconscious mind is soaking up like a sponge.
That they can't afford it either. That they are not good enough. That there is no way that they are good enough to be able to afford what they want in life. Their subconscious is being trained to believe that things are hard to come by, that we live in a limited world where abundance is scarce.
But what if we really can't afford to buy it? We're not lying!
You're absolutely right! You're not lying. But what if we put a spin on it, what if we were to look at the same answer from a different perspective? What if we were to answer with a questions rather than a firm negative answer? What would happen then?
Let's imagine that your child wants to buy new roller blades. You do not have the money to buy it. You only just barely have enough to buy the food you need to put on their plates, so there is no way you are even able to give them money for the roller blades.
What if instead of saying, "I can't afford that!", you said, "Those look nice. They are not in my budget right now, but can you think of a way to buy those?"
By asking your child, "How can you afford that?" you are actually putting their brains in positive motion. Whenever you ask your mind a question it will always crank and spin and turn until it comes up with an answer. Give it a try. Ask yourself a question and try not to answer it! It's nearly impossible!
So use that to your advantage, better yet, use it to your child or teen's advantage! Get their wheels turning. Encourage them to find a solution to their problem. How can they afford to get those roller blades? You might be surprised at the creative ways they come up with! :)
So now what about the phrase, "I'm not made of money!" Did you ever hear your parents say this to you? Have you heard yourself ever saying it to your own teen?
As homeschooling parents, we have even more control over what messages go into our child's subconscious minds. We take the time to ensure that they are learning all the material and lessons that we deem important for ensuring they succeed in life, but often times we don't do our best when it comes to setting a positive wealth mentality in our kids.
And its not your fault either! You are not to blame.
We as a society have been conditioned to think with scarcity. This saying is so prominent in our world that I would bet that at least 99% of every one who reads this article has heard these very words in their own homes! And a good portion have heard themselves reiterating it to our own children. I know I have!
But what are we actually telling our child when we say this to them?
We know what we mean to say, right? We're simply trying to convey the message that they can't just get everything they want all the time. That life has limits, that things take money and time to buy.
But are we correct?
Does life have to be so hard?
Well, if we keep up this attitude of scarcity then the answer will always be a resounding, "Yes!" We have conditioned ourselves to actually believe that life is hard, that we are not made of money.
So then I ask you...what is money made of, if not you?
Money is mearly paper. Does paper have value? If you burn it, it can bring you warmth or even cook your food. If you compost it, it can feed your garden. But other than that, does the paper really have any value all by itself?
No.
You bring it value. You make it have meaning. Because of you and your creativity and talents, you have made money have value. Money is made of you, and because you can create money with your talents, with your creativity, you are actually made of money too!
Think about it. It's your work that gets exchanged for money. It's your ideas that turn into money, like books, movies, prepared foods, toys, furntiture, services. The list goes on and on.
So in fact, you are made of money. We all are made of money. Money does not exist without us. It has no meaning without us. By telling our kids that you are not made of money, they actually hear in their minds that they are not made of money. That then translates to their own inability to create money, to create their own wealth.
I know it may sound rather harsh, but look around. Who are the people you know who are doing really well financially? Who are the people you know who not only have lots of money but who never stress about money or getting it. They are the ones who assume that even if there is no money at the present moment, using their own creativity they know that they can always find a way to make their own money.
How great will it feel to know that because of you, because of your own choices to use positive words that empower over those that tend to hinder, your child can have any job they go after. They can even create their own income from their own ideas. They won't have those limitations that we have put on ourselves. They will truly believe that anything is posible! Imagine what kind of a life advantage that will give your child or teen!
And how about the last one, "Money doesn't grow on trees!" Why not? Why doesn't it?
Let's think about this. Again, by telling our children and teens that money is hard to come by, we are setting up their psyche's to simply accept the idea that life is difficult and that it's hard to make a living. And it absolutely can be, I'm not saying it isn't. But whether its hard or not has a lot to do with your attitude and how we choose to see our lives.
Do you want your teens to accept that all things in life are difficult to come by and thereby set up the idea that they will always need to struggle in life, or would you rather your child or teen sees the world through the eyes of opportunity, willing to take calculated risks with the greater posibility of achieving success?
Money absolutely can grow on trees! Just plant a fruit or nut tree and see what harvests will come your way. And how about a soft or hard wood tree that can be cultivated later to build you a new home? Let's encourage our teens to plant their own trees, to depend on themselves, not just to hope to find someone else's tree but to actually make the effort to plant their own and then have the enjoyment of reaping what they sow!
From now on, let's choose to say these three statements in a more positive way:
1. "How can you afford that?" - get them thinking of a solution rather than focusing on a problem or resistance.
2. "I create my own wealth" - make it a fact and then let your brain guide you to the opportunities that will make it a reality.
3. "Money does grow on trees, so start planting them now!" - time to teach our kids to plan their own orchards!
I know it seems like I've made it all sound rather easy. It's actually a lot easier than you might initially believe. What you really need to make these things happen to ensure that your child leave your protective homeschooling nest with a positive step forward in life is to learn how to make easy habits out of these new ideas.
Don't expect to be able to make change all at once. Find a mentor who can guide you. Find books or courses that can help you to teach your child how to be rich, how to take care of themselves, and posibly you in the future too! Trust your instincts.
Here’s to both your success and your child’s! Would LOVE to hear your own success stories!
Cheers…Amanda van der Gulik…Excited Life Enthusiast! ;o)
Best-selling author, Amanda van der Gulik, has been homeschooling her own two children for over 11 years. She loves to share her own experiences to help other families and is the founder of www.TeachingChildrenAboutMoney.com. Visit Amanda’s site today to grab your FREE copy of one of her amazing money tools for kids and teens, like her eBook, “Goal Setting for Families” workbook or her “50 Money Making Ideas for Kids and Teens” eBook to help your child find some fun ways to make their own dreams come true!
